“If you want to live a happy life tie it to a goal, not to people or objects”- Albert Einstein
365 days have passed and again time to look back and see what I had gained and lost. Was I successful in attaining my last year’s resolution and if so then how much. Most of you too will be hoping to make some good changes in life this 2018 be it to get in better shape physically, or financially and keeping the resolution no matter how hard it becomes to get to the goal.
This year I am thinking of some life changing resolutions that will not only benefit me but also to give back something to society. Here are 15 of such outstanding new year resolutions that will cheer you each day and you will want to keep them forever. These goals will find hope and let you stay positive all the year through and coming years if you continue and will surely play a significant role in improving our society.
1. Only 5 minutes a day to take a stroll
Starting with yourself to keep your mood going and to stay healthy you need to come out of your shell/house/office/den daily for just 5 minutes a day. This was prescribed to me by my physician when I was getting a bit depressed in life and believe me this has helped me a lot. You don’t need to go to gym or do the full work out but taking 5 minutes out of your busy schedule is the commitment that is needed to keep this goal.
Not only will you burn some extra calories and break the cycle of sitting, but a study in the journal Environmental Science & Technology found that a short burst of exercise in the fresh air could have mental health benefits too. The researchers found that just five minutes walking, gardening, or cycling in a green area can give boosts to self-esteem and mood. Also in those five minutes you may meet some like minded people to keep you going in life.
2. Throw away your cell phone before you go to bed
Seriously, smartphones have become a havoc in our life. They don’t allow you to have a peaceful sleep. In fact the social media sites like Facebook, Twitter keep pushing notifications for you to keep on hanging with your phone even when in bed. Have you ever seen how nature behaves at night but we are doing our own things against the creator. A BBC article that I read two months back was quite shocking as how we are losing the serenity of night and damaging out mental health.
As you aim for the restful sleep you need to shut down your slot game or candy crush episodes or chatting with your Facebook friends. People who use a light-emitting device instead of reading a book before bed are more alert, take longer to fall asleep, get less deep REM sleep, and take longer to wake up, neuroscientist Anne-Marie Chang has said. “Simply avoid your devices before going to sleep,” she told Scientific American. Quit trying to squeeze in more emails or get a new high score, and put a dent in your reading list instead.
3. Include more fruits and veggies in your plate
One of my friends only asks for fruits when she comes to my house. Her skin glows like gold and when we ask her what lotion she applies to her face, her reply is cucumber and guava. Simply having diets don’t work to stay fit and fine. For a long-term solution, make a point of adding fresh produce to your plate, rather than avoiding certain foods. “If it’s an addition instead of a takeaway, you’re more likely to repeat it until the action becomes an automatic habit,” says Art Markman, PhD, professor of psychology and marketing at the University of Texas at Austin, in Health. You’ll naturally eat fewer unhealthy foods because there will be less room on your plate, but because you’re filling up with satisfying fruits and vegetables, you won’t feel deprived.
4. Find solutions instead of problems
I remember one of my school days tutor who used to teach me Mathematics always said don’t ask me the problem but find a solution. That time these words were only for my math subject but in life really we need to find solutions rather than picking up problems. Be it at home, office, among friends you need to have ideas for improvement that could make your life better rather than worrying for a problem. Constantly focusing on the negative can have a detrimental effect on the you making you feel always stressful.
5. Say I Love You
I love all my readers and visitors at winmenot. I hope you love me too. Saying I love you often in relationships, be it to mom, dad, siblings, friends or spouse strengthens the bond and blooms a healthy relation. “Telling your spouse you love him every day is easy, cheap, and not fattening, but so many people don’t do it,” says relationship expert April Masini in Brides. Say “I love you” every day to keep your relationship strong. Also don’t forget the big impact that little gestures, like writing a sweet love note or picking up doughnuts from your loved ones favorite bakery, can make.
6. Learn to say No
This lesson was taught to me in school when every day news about kids getting into drugs were quite popular in newspapers. Our nun teacher specifically said, You need to be bold and brave to say No to drugs”. This lesson is still in mind and one should learn to say No when you don’t want something or feel it’s bad to you and society. Suppose a friend invited you to have a tea or donate something for charity and you don’t have money or time you need to say no. You might worry that saying “no” will make the other person feel bad, but not knowing how to reject plans and requests could ruin your own happiness in the process.
Quit guilt-tripping yourself—the other person probably doesn’t care nearly as much about your answer as you do. “Chances are the consequences of saying ‘no’ are much worse in our heads than they would ever be in reality,” says Vanessa Bohns, PhD, assistant professor at Cornell University, in The Wall Street Journal. If you’re in desperate need of some “me” time or don’t have room in the budget to support another cause, just be honest. You’ll save yourself the headache and keep the other person from getting false hopes.
7. Admire the beauty in life
Yesterday I saw a very little puppy playing with his mom out in the sun. I stood for some time to watch him and smiled at how each mammal or living beings including humans love their moms. Make a point of looking for the beauty in the world, and you could improve your general happiness. A study in the journal Personality and Individual Differences found that people who wrote down three beautiful human behaviors, three instances of natural beauty, and three other beautiful things they noticed every day were happier after one month than a placebo group who wrote down early memories. Start a journal to keep track of the beautiful things you take for granted in your own life you might be surprised by how much there is to be grateful for.
8. Money should not be the sole aim at work
When you are in job money should not be the sole aim at work. I have seen many my colleagues always discussing money, salaries and hikes rather than sitting down and improving their job and work. As long as you’re making ends meet, rethink your focus to making happy memories, rather than raking in the dough.
According to a study in the journal Social Psychological and Personal Science about 65 percent of people would pick money over time, but those who did value time over money reported more happiness and life satisfaction. The researchers controlled the experiment to make comparisons between people with similar amounts of time and money. Still, those who said they’d choose wealth tended to be concerned with not having enough money, while those who picked time were brainstorming the enjoyable things they could do with that time.
9. Talk Less but listen and observe
Have you read David Copperfield by Charles Dickens. He used to observe a lot and talked less. Start practicing active listening and observing, which involves learning what the other person really wants to get across, rather than trying to make it about your own agenda. Put your phone down, make eye contact, ask follow-up questions, and use these other habits of great listeners to better your understanding of the speaker’s point of view. When it’s clear you truly care about what the other person is saying, you’ll build your empathy and strengthen your relationships.
10. Friend in need is a Friend indeed
Your true friends should be valued. If you have long distance friend then don’t lose touch with them. As there are ways to communicate these days due to advancement in technology like Whats app or chat messenger there’s no excuse to let those old relationships fall to the wayside. One of my friends lives in Texas but keeps it a routine to text me once a week to keep the strings attached.
Text or email at least one faraway friend every week to let that person know you’re thinking about him or her. You’ll probably make your friend’s day, and you’ll strengthen the relationship by keeping tabs on what’s going on in that person’s life.
11. Play a game or do a crossword puzzle every day
Do you know what I do after my office? I play game be it slots, poker, crossword or any thing but I do play a game for half an hour to relax and enjoy. In a 2017 study, researchers at the University of Exeter Medical School and Kings College London asked over 17,000 healthy people, aged 50 or older, how often they played word games like crossword puzzles, and then used online tests to evaluate their brain function. The results showed that the more frequently people engaged in these games, the better their cognitive function as they aged. On tests measuring grammatical reasoning speed and short-term memory accuracy, frequent puzzle players had results comparable to people 10 years younger than they were.
12. Ha Ha Ha Laugh
Laughing sessions can be seen these days at parks as yoga sessions. But that are artificial laughing classes where the yoga trainer asks you to laugh aloud. How about laughing naturally? You don’t need any trainer here but a joke to share, a pet to observe, a friend to giggle, or a comedy movie to watch. Laurel and hardy, I love Lucy were the classic comedy shows one will never forget. Youtube is loaded with their series and you can watch and laugh. Laughter releases endorphins in your brain, the feel-good chemicals that can put you in a state of euphoria. Plus, the American Heart Association says that laughing can decrease stress hormones, reduce inflammation in the arteries, and boost your “good” cholesterol.
13. Do nothing for a while
Why was the need of Yoga raised? Well it was because we are living in a fast-paced world where moving, working, and thinking quickly is considered the way to success. In reality, that mindset is the way to burnout. Spending a few minutes each day meditating can help you refocus and center on what you really need to get done. Simply sit with your eyes closed and focus on your breathing, nothing else. This sort of mindfulness exercise has been proven to reduce stress and improve working memory, the American Psychological Association reports.
14. Share and Give
This Christmas one of friends asked me what are you doing? I said buying blankets for the needy and making shelter for animals to keep them warm in winter. You know what he replied, why only in Christmas? Sharing and giving should be all the year round. Such random acts of kindness are a great way to spread a little much-needed light and love in the world. We’re living through an extremely turbulent time throughout the globe and it’s great to resolve to respond to the suffering in any way that you can. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. The list of do-gooder tasks is endless from buying a coffee for a person in line to volunteering at a local soup kitchen or buying some dog food or the hungry dog. Any contribution great or small that comes from the heart makes a difference.
15. Pray daily
I am not a religious person but I am a spiritual being that believes some mighty power is there whom we call God that protects us, heals us and shows us our right path. My dad taught me to pray to thank for being alive each day after night’s sleep early morning when I get up from bed. To ask forgiveness not for our sins but for others too and to pray for all living beings as life is a great challenge. Despite plans and anticipatory actions, life can throw curve balls that we’re not quite ready to tackle. When life challenges us it’s important to retreat to prayer for comfort and reinforcement. Prayer can be a saving grace that directs us through rough travels and holds our hand through difficult days.
With these 15 ever green life changing goals you surely will get motivated to keep moving ahead with times, feel energetic, get positive vibes, be there for one another as fellow members of humanity, in the finest sense of the word and be cheerful the whole year. Happy New Year!